php/mysql connectivity issue

my php scripts keep having their connections to mysql refused. the passords come from a seperate file that's in the include.

the pws work, i know because i tested each one by copying and pasting from that file.

http://24.91.157.113/findyourdesire/join.showcode

that file has had a small amount of editing fromt he actual file, which is noted at the top.

this is a print out from mysql that shows the users (logins edited)
http://24.91.157.113/findyourdesire/SQLUserInfo

i've tried adjusting the user being used in that script to Ashes and to localhost, both to no avail

it's a LAMP development environtment, there's a router providing firewall resticting connections to the machine to just ftp/ssh/htttp if you're not on the network. since there's a hardware firewall on my network i turned off the software firewall on my server to be sure that's not the issue.

can anyone help me get this running instead of returning:"Warning: Access denied for user: 'login@localhost' (Using password: YES) in /var/www/html/findyourdesire/join.php on line 30
cannot access db"?

Both
http://24.91.157.113/findyourdesire/join.showcode and http://24.91.157.113/findyourdesire/SQLUserInfo are dead links.

I am marking this post as resolved.